hehn
2003-10-13 16:22:42 UTC
Last night DH and I went on a walk and we were talking about how come so many of our
friends have nice cars and nice furniture and nicer houses, and do not seem to be in
much debt. Granted, we both have student loans and they don't but geez. We both have
good jobs and are pretty frugal. I just don't understand why it seems so easy to some
people; what are we doing wrong?
DH's car is dying - an old '86 volvo. There are so many things so wrong with it that it
is no longer frugal to fix/maintain. So he's looking at other cars. Since we do a lot
of work on the house ourselves, we need at least one vehicle that can simultaneously be
used for cargo, and for commuting. After considerable searching, we're going to get a
Subaru Outback. We're going to buy one used because we can't afford one new.
We did visit some new car dealers and originally were bitten with new car fever. I can
see now how dealers have things set up psychologically - they make you fall in love
with the car and feel like you have to have it this instant. Luckily we didn't buy
anything and the fever subsided after a few days. (I once read that dealers know that
most people who walk in will buy a car within 3 days... and I swear, it took 3 days of
frantic financial analysis before we were like "no, we just don't feel comfortable
with this.")
Our friends are encouraging us to get a new car because we strongly desire something
that will not need work for the next 6-8 years. Right now our lifestyles are work work
work, and there is always an emergency or a project that needs to be done (with car,
house or work). I am constantly stressed out and overwhelmed. It's very seductive to
think about how uncomplicated it would be to have a new car, but that would mean an
extra year and a half of debt for us, and - though we're not sure - we may be changing
our lifestyle and DH may be going back to school so we may have to pare down to the
bare bones and take in roommates. (Don't worry - no more student loans though! :)
What I am wondering is, how does everyone else do it? How do people so easily sign on
and manage new cars and furniture and nice things? Our friends seem like they are
handling their finances well and are able to make their payments & save. The difference
between our comfort price level and the unreachable is about 6K. That's not a huge
amount if you think about it, so I find myself wondering 1. if it's wiser over the long
run to spend it and get a car that won't have 50K miles on it but instead be new, or
2. if our intution is good for us and we should listen to it.
Does anyone else look around them and wonder how everyone else does it? I am not a
successful frugalist, I think, because there is so much I want and need and I spend so
much time as it is working and wishing I could buy stuff. I am only frugal because I am
broke! And I could probably even be doing better - I don't follow all the advice on
cooking cheaply, etc. that I could.
How has your road been - have you always been frugal, or do you feel successful at
it? What secrets have helped you tame down the need for things?
Hehn
friends have nice cars and nice furniture and nicer houses, and do not seem to be in
much debt. Granted, we both have student loans and they don't but geez. We both have
good jobs and are pretty frugal. I just don't understand why it seems so easy to some
people; what are we doing wrong?
DH's car is dying - an old '86 volvo. There are so many things so wrong with it that it
is no longer frugal to fix/maintain. So he's looking at other cars. Since we do a lot
of work on the house ourselves, we need at least one vehicle that can simultaneously be
used for cargo, and for commuting. After considerable searching, we're going to get a
Subaru Outback. We're going to buy one used because we can't afford one new.
We did visit some new car dealers and originally were bitten with new car fever. I can
see now how dealers have things set up psychologically - they make you fall in love
with the car and feel like you have to have it this instant. Luckily we didn't buy
anything and the fever subsided after a few days. (I once read that dealers know that
most people who walk in will buy a car within 3 days... and I swear, it took 3 days of
frantic financial analysis before we were like "no, we just don't feel comfortable
with this.")
Our friends are encouraging us to get a new car because we strongly desire something
that will not need work for the next 6-8 years. Right now our lifestyles are work work
work, and there is always an emergency or a project that needs to be done (with car,
house or work). I am constantly stressed out and overwhelmed. It's very seductive to
think about how uncomplicated it would be to have a new car, but that would mean an
extra year and a half of debt for us, and - though we're not sure - we may be changing
our lifestyle and DH may be going back to school so we may have to pare down to the
bare bones and take in roommates. (Don't worry - no more student loans though! :)
What I am wondering is, how does everyone else do it? How do people so easily sign on
and manage new cars and furniture and nice things? Our friends seem like they are
handling their finances well and are able to make their payments & save. The difference
between our comfort price level and the unreachable is about 6K. That's not a huge
amount if you think about it, so I find myself wondering 1. if it's wiser over the long
run to spend it and get a car that won't have 50K miles on it but instead be new, or
2. if our intution is good for us and we should listen to it.
Does anyone else look around them and wonder how everyone else does it? I am not a
successful frugalist, I think, because there is so much I want and need and I spend so
much time as it is working and wishing I could buy stuff. I am only frugal because I am
broke! And I could probably even be doing better - I don't follow all the advice on
cooking cheaply, etc. that I could.
How has your road been - have you always been frugal, or do you feel successful at
it? What secrets have helped you tame down the need for things?
Hehn