Lady Veteran
2008-05-26 20:34:01 UTC
When Trolls, Flame Wars and Cyber-Rage go too Far
Read more about: Social Media
http://www.sparkplugging.com/sparkplug-ceo/when-trolls-flame-wars-and-cyber-rage-go-too-far/
Written by:Wendy Piersall
I just read about the suicide of Megan Meier (via MumDinger) . She was
a girl who struggled with depression from a young age - but found a
new friend named Josh on MySpace that brought new hope to her life.
The sick and twisted side to the story is that there was no Josh.
Indeed, Joshs profile was created specifically to trick Megan - and
things rapidly got out-of-hand with Josh saying things like, Megan
Meier is a slut. Megan Meier is fat. But it gets worse - it wasnt
just the vengeful friend doing this to Megan.
It was also the friends parents.
And it was because of that out-of-hand conversation that Megan hung
herself.
My chest feels heavy and I can hardly breathe as I think about what
kind of adult would do that to a 13 year old child - especially since
I HAVE a 13 year old child and I know what a difficult time it is for
any kid at that age to overcome insecurities.
Although the story is somewhat extreme, I realized that we deal with
this kind of internet rage daily. Trolls. Flame wars. Nasty comments.
All these things that people would NEVER do if they were actually face
to face - instead hiding behind a keyboard and attacking as a way to
feel important and feed a hollow ego.
We seem to have become desensitized to it when it comes to celebrity
bashing. Somehow people can justify speaking reprehensible words if
they are directed at Jennifer Love Hewitt, who, as a celebrity, is
supposed to be perfect, right?
But in fact, its not just celebrities that are the brunt of
cyber-rage. Ive gotten comments just as bad as the one above on both
this blog and my Entrepreneur.com blog - but only when an article has
hit the front page of Digg.
And Im far from alone - when I was doing research for this post, I
shot a note off to Muhammad Saleem & Tamar Weinberg, both top diggers.
I asked for examples of personal attacks they had seen on Digg - and
when I got them back, I wished I hadnt asked.
Racism. Sexism. The Digg community goes beyond cyber-rage at times to
pure hate. Hate that if spoken in a public place, would silence a room
full of thousands of people with gasps of shock and disgust.
When Muhammad wrote an article for Search Engine Land on Social Media,
it got to the front page of Digg. But with a name like Muhammad,
members of the Digg community attacked both him and his content based
solely on the fact that with that name they assumed he was a
fire-breathing terrorist:
So what does this all have to do with Megan Meier?
Although her situation is both complicated and tragic, the people that
verbally attacked her used far more benign words than has come to be
expected of the Digg community. Saying Megan Meier is a slut or
Megan Meier is fat on Digg wouldnt even make us bat an eyelash, for
the most part.
And although I dont think its fair to say that those two phrases (or
whatever they said) drove Megan to suicide alone, I also think it is
fair to say that the people who attacked Megan cannot completely wash
their hands clean of guilt, either.
Social Media is a double edged sword. We connect, we make friends, we
change lives, we make a difference. But I really cant comprehend what
justifications people use to launch these attacks on other human
beings. Its not up to me to tell the Digg community to be nice. And
frankly, its not just Digg - nearly all of the social bookmarking
sites have seen their share of Trolls.
But I can highlight the consequences of the choices people make when
they chose to vent their rage at perfect strangers. In the hopes that
at least a few people can start to treat each other with the same
respect that they would give if they were to meet each other face to
face.
And interestingly, Megan Meiers mom is now working with legislators
to not only make these kinds of cyber-attacks illegal, but she also
wants to go after sites that give cyber-bullies a forum. Its a
slippery slope to be sure, but has huge implications for all social
media sites, forums, and communities that dont crack down enough on
inappropriate and abusive users.
LV-posted from SSFA
"I rode a tank and held a general's rank
When the blitzkrieg raged and the bodies stank."
---Sympathy for the Devil-The Rolling Stones
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"A fanatic cannot change his mind and will not
change the subject."
---Winston Churchill
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Read more about: Social Media
http://www.sparkplugging.com/sparkplug-ceo/when-trolls-flame-wars-and-cyber-rage-go-too-far/
Written by:Wendy Piersall
I just read about the suicide of Megan Meier (via MumDinger) . She was
a girl who struggled with depression from a young age - but found a
new friend named Josh on MySpace that brought new hope to her life.
The sick and twisted side to the story is that there was no Josh.
Indeed, Joshs profile was created specifically to trick Megan - and
things rapidly got out-of-hand with Josh saying things like, Megan
Meier is a slut. Megan Meier is fat. But it gets worse - it wasnt
just the vengeful friend doing this to Megan.
It was also the friends parents.
And it was because of that out-of-hand conversation that Megan hung
herself.
My chest feels heavy and I can hardly breathe as I think about what
kind of adult would do that to a 13 year old child - especially since
I HAVE a 13 year old child and I know what a difficult time it is for
any kid at that age to overcome insecurities.
Although the story is somewhat extreme, I realized that we deal with
this kind of internet rage daily. Trolls. Flame wars. Nasty comments.
All these things that people would NEVER do if they were actually face
to face - instead hiding behind a keyboard and attacking as a way to
feel important and feed a hollow ego.
We seem to have become desensitized to it when it comes to celebrity
bashing. Somehow people can justify speaking reprehensible words if
they are directed at Jennifer Love Hewitt, who, as a celebrity, is
supposed to be perfect, right?
But in fact, its not just celebrities that are the brunt of
cyber-rage. Ive gotten comments just as bad as the one above on both
this blog and my Entrepreneur.com blog - but only when an article has
hit the front page of Digg.
And Im far from alone - when I was doing research for this post, I
shot a note off to Muhammad Saleem & Tamar Weinberg, both top diggers.
I asked for examples of personal attacks they had seen on Digg - and
when I got them back, I wished I hadnt asked.
Racism. Sexism. The Digg community goes beyond cyber-rage at times to
pure hate. Hate that if spoken in a public place, would silence a room
full of thousands of people with gasps of shock and disgust.
When Muhammad wrote an article for Search Engine Land on Social Media,
it got to the front page of Digg. But with a name like Muhammad,
members of the Digg community attacked both him and his content based
solely on the fact that with that name they assumed he was a
fire-breathing terrorist:
So what does this all have to do with Megan Meier?
Although her situation is both complicated and tragic, the people that
verbally attacked her used far more benign words than has come to be
expected of the Digg community. Saying Megan Meier is a slut or
Megan Meier is fat on Digg wouldnt even make us bat an eyelash, for
the most part.
And although I dont think its fair to say that those two phrases (or
whatever they said) drove Megan to suicide alone, I also think it is
fair to say that the people who attacked Megan cannot completely wash
their hands clean of guilt, either.
Social Media is a double edged sword. We connect, we make friends, we
change lives, we make a difference. But I really cant comprehend what
justifications people use to launch these attacks on other human
beings. Its not up to me to tell the Digg community to be nice. And
frankly, its not just Digg - nearly all of the social bookmarking
sites have seen their share of Trolls.
But I can highlight the consequences of the choices people make when
they chose to vent their rage at perfect strangers. In the hopes that
at least a few people can start to treat each other with the same
respect that they would give if they were to meet each other face to
face.
And interestingly, Megan Meiers mom is now working with legislators
to not only make these kinds of cyber-attacks illegal, but she also
wants to go after sites that give cyber-bullies a forum. Its a
slippery slope to be sure, but has huge implications for all social
media sites, forums, and communities that dont crack down enough on
inappropriate and abusive users.
LV-posted from SSFA
"I rode a tank and held a general's rank
When the blitzkrieg raged and the bodies stank."
---Sympathy for the Devil-The Rolling Stones
--------------------------------------------
"A fanatic cannot change his mind and will not
change the subject."
---Winston Churchill
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